Musings on Marriage

Tag: Frames

Choose Your Frame

Seventy years ago, my dad survived a midair collision while training as a young pilot in California. One day, as he flew low alongside the runway, a small plane above him unexpectedly turned into his path and severed his aircraft’s tail. His plane flipped and landed nose-first, leaving him hanging by his seat belt. He released the belt, dropped to the ground, and walked away uninjured.

Five people witnessed the accident, so you know how many different opinions there were in the retelling of the accident.  It happens all the time for any situation, statement or news report.  Depending on prior knowledge and individual bias, there are always different responses to any incident or accident. How we frame our circumstances defines the way we live.

Three years ago on October 7, Hamas terrorists living in Gaza broke through the gates dividing Israel from Gaza.  They swarmed into unsuspecting Israeli communities, chopped off their victims’ arms, feet, and other body parts. They burned, tortured, raped and beheaded them.  Israelis fought for their lives but at the end of the day 1,200 of them had lost their lives and another 250 were taken as hostages.

The terrorists themselves documented the attack with gun-mounted cameras and social media posts.  Hamas wanted the world to know of their hatred for the Jewish people, strategically turning the world against Israel.  Hamas had rehearsed this attack for two years and were ready to frame their attack as self-defense in the name of resistance.

Just two days after the October 7 massacre, 127 United States university-based chapters of Students for Justice in Palestine (SJP) released a statement saying that Hamas’ attacks were justified and blamed Israel for committing genocide. Interestingly, SJP released this statement almost a full week BEFORE Israel started up its counter-offensive attacks against Gaza.

The timing suggested that Hamas’s propaganda campaign on U.S. university campuses had been coordinated with the military attack.  But Hamas supporters apparently didn’t get the memo about waiting until Israel responded militarily before condemning it for responding militarily. 

During the framing of the October 7 attack we all heard the chanting “From the River to the Sea, Palestine will be free,” but I wonder if many in the crowds knew which river and which sea they were chanting about… 

Last week, on the third anniversary of the October 7 attack, there were many different op-eds.  The gaps in framing stood out in nearly every outlet.  Some interviewed the survivors and former hostages – focusing compassionately on those who endured Israel’s massacre.  Many others framed it differently, citing Israel as the one who started the conflict.  The New York Post wrote: “The demonstrations planned for today in New York, shamefully, will not condemn Hamas, but Israel.”

Hatred for the Jews is nothing new. The Pharoah of Egypt was the first who tried to exterminate them around 1300 B.C., but God delivered them through the Exodus.  In the Spring of 474 B.C. Haman of Persia (modern-day Iran) tried to eradicate the Jews, but Queen Esther stood up for her people and Haman’s plot boomeranged on himself.  The Final Solution to the Jewish Question was Hitler’s goal in WWII, and from 1941-1945 six million Jews from 21 countries were systematically murdered.

Refreshingly this year there was also a 24-hour Global Prayer Event for Israel on October 7, 2026, three years after the Hamas Massacre.  Held near the wailing wall in Jerusalem, the event was streamed throughout the world with over 40 countries standing in solidarity with Israel.  I watched a few hours and was brought to tears by a beautiful song – composed for the occasion and sung by people representing all 40 countries.  A few of the lines were:

    “We are the world and we will carry you on our shoulders…” “Israel will not stand alone”

Framing circumstances can be as innocuous as watching a mid-air collision or discerning the difference between facts and agendas. Take care and pray for discernment.


        “We must ultimately be shaped not by the agendas of the strong men of our day, but by the Prince of Peace Himself.” Pete Greig

Hate is easy.  Love is hard.

Choose Your Frame

Dear Daughters,

About 70 years ago Grandpa had a mid-air collision while he was a young pilot living in California.  Because of the G.I. bill he was able to take lessons for free, so had been training for his pilot’s license.  One day Grandpa was flying quite low to the runway when another small plane, flying a little higher than his, turned unexpectedly into Grandpa’s path and cut off his tail in the process.  Grandpa’s plane flipped completely over and landed on its nose, leaving him hanging in his seatbelt.  He loosened his belt, dropped to the ground and walked away unharmed.

There were five different people who saw the accident.  Guess how many different opinions came when they were questioned about what happened?  Yes, five different opinions of the same accident.

It happens all the time, for any situation, statement or news report.  An incident occurs and every person perceives it with their own bias or prior knowledge and experience.  How we frame our circumstances definitely defines the way we live. 

This morning we woke up to a power outage lasting three hours. No warm breakfast or hot tea – a minor inconvenience for us, and it passed quickly.  But I’m sure it was a cause for extreme consternation to others who had things to do and places to go.  I immediately thought of the people in the Dominican Republic and other countries like it.  In the DR people plan on outages every day because different quadrants of the city are allowed so many hours of electricity each day and they simply allow for that fact, grateful when it is working.   

There are many different frames available for everything that happens to us.  We can frame a situation so we become the victim.  We can frame another happening so we are the hero.  Or we can frame a circumstance portraying us as innocent. The framing options never end…

Do you remember Paul, the guy who Jesus appeared to on the road to Damascus?  He regularly had his plans foiled and his journeys often included unexpected encounters and directions.  In fact, during the end of his life he and some friends set out to Rome, eagerly planning to spread the good news to the people there.  Instead, he ended up in prison, being chained night and day to the guards keeping watch over him.  In this situation Craig Groeschel (in Winning the War in Your Mind) describes the choices of how Paul could respond:

#1) Lament the fact of his imprisonment because it wasn’t on his agenda

#2) Rejoice because Paul trusted that God’s plan was better than his

If he had chosen option #1 he could have said:

Now I want you to know, brothers and sisters, that what has happened to me really sucks.  I wanted to spread the good news through preaching to government officials, but that did not happen.  As a result of this hell I’ve been through I have decided prayer doesn’t work, and I am never going back to church again.

But because he trusted that God’s plan was better than his he chose option #2 and said:

I want you to know, brothers and sisters, that everything that has happened to me here has helped to spread the Good News.  For everyone here, including the whole palace guard, knows that I am in chains because of Christ.  And because of my imprisonment, most of the believers here have gained confidence and boldly speak God’s message without fear.  Philippians 1:12-14

In effect, Paul was saying, I had a plan but God had a better plan.  These guards are listening to the gospel and they in turn tell others the good news.  So it’s all good, and I’ll just enjoy.

Paul was the GOAT (greatest of all time) framer of circumstances.  He found joy in every situation, in fact he is the one who wrote,

I have learned to be content in all circumstances…I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.

Philippians 4:11-13

I think the bottom line in framing our lives is knowing that we have no control over what happens to us, but we do have control over how we will frame it.  If we trust that God loves us and has the best plan for our lives, and the Spirit of God lives within us, we need not worry or fret when hard stuff happens.  Yes, we can mourn and lament but ultimately, we do have the choice to reframe every situation.

Apparently, Grandpa simply framed his accident as a learning experience because a few decades later he built his own plane and took to the sky again.

Choose well and trust God with your life.

Love, Mom

© 2026 Branches and Trees

Theme by Anders Noren — Up ↑